论羞怯(On Shyness)

shynessisthecauseofmuchunhappinessforagreatmanypeople.shypeopleareanxiousandself-conscious,thatis,theyareexcessivelyconcernedwiththeirownappearanceandactions.worrisomethoughtsareconstantlyoccurringintheirminds.whatkindofimpressionamimaking?dotheylikeme?doisoundstupid?amiwearingunattractiveclothes?

itisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadversely.apersonsself-conceptisreflectedinthewayheorshebehaves,andthewayapersonbehavesaffectsotherpeoplesreactions.ingeneral,thewaypeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.shypeople,havinglowself-respect,arelikelytobepassiveandeasilyinfluencedbyothers.theyneedreassurancethattheyaredoing"therightthing".shypeopleareverysensitivetocriticism:theyfeelitconfirmstheirinferiority.theyalsofinditdifficulttobepleasedbypraisebecausetheybelievetheyareunworthyofpraise.itisclearthat,whileself-awarenessisahealthyquality,over-doingitisharmful.

canshynessbecompletelyeliminated,oratleastreduced?fortunately,peoplecanovercomeshynesswithdeterminedandpatienteffortinbuildingself-confidence.sinceshynessgoeshandinhandwithlackofself-esteem,itisimportantforpeopletoaccepttheirweaknessesaswellastheirstrengths.eachoneofusisaunique,worthwhileindividual.weareinterestedinourownpersonalways.thebetterweunderstandourselves,theeasieritbecomestoliveuptoourfullpotential.letsnotallowshynesstoblockourchancesforarichandfulfillinglife.

论羞怯

羞怯是许多人不快乐的原因。害羞的人焦虑不安，自我意识强，也就是说，他们过分在意自己的形象和行为。焦虑时常萦绕在他们的脑海中：我给人留下了什么印象?他们喜欢我吗?我让人觉得很傻吗?我的穿着是否不吸引人?

显而易见，这种不舒适的感觉必然给人们带来了不利的影响。一个人的自我意识反映在他或她的行为上，而一个人的行为会影响他人的反应。一般而言，人们认识自己的方式对他们的生活的方方面面有深远的影响。羞怯的人非常自卑，他们可能很被动，容易受他人的影响。他们需要得到他人的再次确认：他们所做的是“正确的事情”。羞怯的人对批评很敏感，他们认为批评使得他们更低人一等。他们也发现自己很难因为受到表扬而高兴，因为他们相信自己不值得表扬。很明显，尽管具有自知之明是件好事，但过度自谦则是有害的。

羞怯能根除吗?或至少能减少些吗?幸运的是，许多人能通过坚决而有耐心地建立自信来克服羞怯。既然羞怯与自卑天生相伴，那么人们能看见他们的优缺点是很重要的。每一个人都是独一无二的，都有其价值所在。我们对我们自己个人的方式感兴趣。我们了解自己越多，我们就越容易充分发挥自己的潜能。不要让羞怯妨碍我们实现富裕而有成效的人生。