父母过于娇纵孩子(Parents Are too Permissive with Their Children Nowadays)

thechildshappinessisali-important,thepsychologistssay,butwhatabouttheparentshappiness?parentssufferconstantlyfromfearandguiltwhiletheirchildrengailyrompaboutpullingtheplaceapart.

agoodold-fashionedspankingisoutofthequestion:nomodernchild-rearingmanualwouldpermitsuchbarbarity.thetroubleisyouarenotallowedeventoshout.whoknowswhatdccppsychologicalwoundsyoumightinflict?certainlyachildneedslove,andalotofit.buttheexcessivepermissivenessofmodernparentsissurelydoingmoreharmthangood.

laxauthorityovertheyearsmakesadolescentrebellionagainstparentsallthemoreviolent.iftheyoungpeoplearegoingtohaveaparty,forinstance,parentsareaskedtoleavethehouse.theirpresencemerelyspoilsthefun.whatelsecanthepoorparentsdobutobey?

childrenarehardycreatures(farhardierthanthepsychologistswouldhaveusbelieve)andmostofthemsurvivetheharmfulinfluenceofextremepermissivenesswhichisthenormalconditioninthemodernhousehold.butagreatmanydonot.thespreadofjuveniledelinquencyinourownageis

largelyduetoparentallaxity.

thepsychologistshavemuchtoanswerfor.theyshouldkeeptheirmouthsshutandletparentsgetonwiththejob.andifchildrenareknockedaboutalittlebitintheprocess,itmaynotreallymattertoomuch.

atleastthiswillhelpthemtodevelopvigorousviewsoftheirownandgivethemsomethingpositivetoreactagainst.perhapstheressometruthintheideathatchildrenwhovehadanexcessofhappinessintheirchildhoodfailtomakeasuccessoflife.